The Child in Me - Again

Since I refuse to grow up, I love being with kids or doing what they love to do best – play, eat, sleep, be free and care less about getting old while wanting to be an adult in haste to be free from parents’ dos and don’ts. Nyahihihi…

Anyways, here’s the list of the things I love to do then that I can’t do now:

1. Bath outside til rain water stops – naked.
2. Play at the park with all the insects and the dirt.
3. Playing with my brother every video games every now and then.
4. Eat my favorite cheap PhP 0.50 Pompoms.
5. Play with our very own Bioman.
6. Ask Godmothers/fathers of my own (and not) for Xmas gift, and if I get lucky, even Birthday Gift and Pasalubongs.
7. Playing jackstones, piko.. and what other street games?
8. Being wicked with my Grandmother together with Bioman.
9. Being a student, going to school AND ASKING FOR MONEY as baon.
10. To do summer small jobs, taking care of our little cousins, nephews and nieces, with my cousin Melody.
11. Reading Tagalog Romance pocketbooks. Eeewwwww…..!
12. Watch TV a lot.
13. Having plenty of time with just about everything.
14. Getting small and big scars of some things like walking down the beach without slippers.
15. Being innocent of this unkind world.
16. Etc. Etc. Etc. Etc. Etc.

In spite of these things I miss and how young I am now, some people still see me as child, if not a teen, to my horror.

1. A man at the age of 29 called me Ineng just recently when he’s asked if me if I already have a bus ticket. I’m just a year younger than him!
2. The not so old lady from the hospital’s pharmacy called me Nene when she told me to proceed to cashier’s.
3. A tricycle driver called me Ne’, asking if it’s Gaisano or Pacific Mall I’m heading.
4. Etc. Etc. Etc. Etc. Etc.

It’s confusing, REALLY.

Not that I’m complaining or that I don’t like to be called as such but… I’m bigger now, in terms of weight, I guess. I’m not as skinny or as thin or as willowy as before so I know I should look older. I’m also sure my skin isn’t as flawless as one might think or dream of.

And then I get to see a classmate or schoolmates way way back high school and they’d assume the little girl's hand I’m holding is my minime..









D’oh!

I better eat vanilla ice cream later. So... So... looking forward to this long weekend..

Crisis for Ages 35-50

Midlife Crisis is a much heard about term but very few people realize it on time. The realization comes when the crisis is at the paramount and there is very little that they can do. This is a thing that makes an individual feel different. Whether a person is going through a crisis in life, he/she starts feeling uncomfortable. Either they are not satisfied with the job that they are doing or they may end up feeling their marriage is not working smooth. Boredom and frustration becomes their alley and it completely captures their mind and body, leaving them mentally fatigued.

It is a kind of psychological problem where the person feels completely out of place and finds it very difficult to adjust with situations, which he had been doing all this while. In some men and women, midlife crisis also happen due to hormonal changes. But there are cases where an individual suffers due to both physical and hormonal changes.

Mid-life crisis makes an entry usually at about the age of 35-35 and it hits both the sexes. But in men it lasts about 3-10 years and with the women, it is just a matter of 2-5 years. Even though this is what the survey says, there are cases where it may change much beyond the mentioned time. It is a type of crises that hits both men and women but yet there is a difference.

Whenever there is a talk on midlife crises, people tend to react very negatively. According to the famous writer Jim Conway, “escaping the mid-life development crisis is probably as likely as a child escaping adolescence.” Fear is what people encounter when they think or talk about mid-life crisis. The writer says that there is nothing to panic or worry nor is there a need to have a feeling of mental, physical breakdown. As we believe that, things happen for good, midlife crisis is also the same. It too happens for the good, as it helps the person rediscover himself/herself.

SYMPTOMS OF MIDLIFE CRISIS

- A person tends to get irritated, whenever he/she is undergoing a mid-life crisis. Their behavior is never the same as it had been before.

- There is an irritation and disturbance in their sex life too. They do not enjoy the way they had been doing it all the while.

- Being mentally and physically fatigued is a very common symptom. Restless is the next best word for people undergoing mid-life crisis.

- Laziness comes in automatically. They tend to lose interest in all that they do.

SYMPTOMS THAT ARE FOUND MOSTLY IN MEN

- Their joints and muscles get very stiff.
- Even when the wheather is pleasant, they tend to sweat profusely.
- Changes in the skin are also noticed where it gets very dry.
- In most cases, it seen that people with loads of tension and depression, lose weight. But with those undergoing a mid-life crises, gain a lot of weight.
- Hair loss is commonly noticed.
- Last but not the least, they lose the ability to recover quickly from small or big diseases. They lose their resistance power too.

CAUSES
As far as mid life crisis is concerned, there are two types of it” psychological and physical cause.

PSYCHOLOGICAL CAUSE
The change of times and progress in age is a leading cause towards mid-life crises. The youth gets a lot importance in comparison to the old people. This makes them feel they have been sidelined which leaves them frustrated.

Problems arise whenever there is a change in situations which probably may be unwanted one. Divorce is a fine example.

As one gets older, their sex life faces a lot of problems. Things are no more the same and pleasant as it had been. This reason is enough to face mid life crises.

To some it may come due to professional reasons. By the time one reaches midlife age, they seem to have achieved all that they wanted in life. This leaves them confused as to what should they be doing in the future. They stare into nothingness even after the big achievement.

Some researchers have also shown that, sleep is the main reason for men to slip into mid-life crisis problems. As on ages, sleep seems to be on decreasing end. This lack of sleep causes a disruption in their life schedule.

PHYSICAL CAUSES

There is an argument among psychologists, regarding “male menopause” and they say that, due to this hormonal change, many slip into mid-life crisis.

TACKLING MID LIFE CRISES

There are many other ways to handle stress, rather than taking up alcoholism and smoking very religiously. Exercise, yoga and meditation are the best medicine to tackle stress.

Try to change with time. Many face a problem because they feel it difficult to walk with time. If you are young, you have to behave young, but if you are old you have to accept that fact too, with complete enthusiasm and energy.

Never give a second thought to visiting a doctor of you feel that you are finding if difficult to tackle the problem. He is the best adviser and councilor.

Speak out your problem to your spouse or somebody very close to you. This will help lighten your burden.

Always think positive. That helps at all extent. People around you may be negative but give at least ear. You are the best judge for yourself as none other than you know your potential is better.

Eat and sleep well. Try not to upset your routine. You will end up upsetting your life.

Get used to the changes in your sex life. Such problems are very normal. It is always advisable to change with situations rather than making demands. With age, compromises need to come in.

Try to balance your professional and personal life very tactfully. Do not give much too much of an attention to one thus ending up neglecting the other.

Mid-life crises are all in the minds of the people. It is in their hands to have it or give it. Even if one is undergoing such a problem, it is always advisable to take it positively rather than escaping from it. If faced courageously, it will give you the confidence to live life better.